Its interesting to me that when I hear something I usually am not listening the first time. So out of trained response even when I am listening I say phrases like "what do you mean" and "what" even if I am listening to the person. This morning I woke up way earlier than I thought I was supposed to wake up because in Todd World today was Wednesday up until oh about 7:40, then it suddenly became Oh-my-gosh-I'm-so-late Tuesday. As I threw clothes on and dashed out the door I was thinking about how I don't listen continuing to reflect on this weekend and hearing from God.
So I started to think about why I don't listen and concluded its because I am constantly thinking about myself. Like not like ways I can benefit from what they are talking about but literally when people talk to me I tend to think about myself like how big my beard is getting, there is a spot on my glasses, i need to lose weight, I wonder what I'm going to eat for dinner, I hope I don't run into traffic on the way home. All of these thoughts pass as someone talks to me and then I tune in and respond with....What?
So to those of you that talk to me I may need a second where you should talk about something pointless then tell me what you need to tell me because I may not be listening until a few seconds in.
My goal is to be a less selfish listener. How to accomplish that though?
Love is key...Love is always the key.
I have to realize that if I am wanting to exemplify love toward a person then I would want to listen to what they have to say.
People should be a good practice to get into the discipline of listening.
Even with all of my knowledge of the word and about being still and waiting I still have a hard time listening. All of the tools are before me but I don't know how to use them.
SO God I just ask for wisdom as to how to be a better listener and use the tools you have provided for me.
Amen.
It's great that God brings these things to your attention so that I don't have to. Listening is not the popular thing to do nor is it always the most enjoyable thing to do. But... it is the most rewarding thing to do for those who do it and those who are listened to.
ReplyDeleteOne great tool to being a better listener is to take good detailed notes. Then go one step further and say to the person, So if I heard you correctly you said............ It works! Try if for 10 days and see what you get.
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